Single, But Not Single


Single but not single. That’s what I am. Most people would say single, because I’m not in a romantic relationship. But I say, not single. Because “single” has the idea of being alone and I am far from alone.

Whoever decided you needed a romantic partner to be happy or part of a “couple” was crazy because just as much happiness is found in other stages of life. Whoever decided that a girl needs a guy and a guy needs a girl to be happy was crazy because love can be just as deep, even though it’s different, in other friendships.

I find just as much happiness in spending time with a good friend, in fellowship with other born again believers, in growing closer to God, and even in things as simple as walking alone in nature, as I could ever imagine myself being falling in love with “the one”. Sure, it’s a different happiness, a different satisfaction, but as Edmund from Mansfield Park said, “there are as many forms of love as there are moments in time.” And there are just as many forms of fulfilment.

“Singles”, I doubt whether you are really single. Look around you, at all the things and the people you love. Your dog. Your favorite book. Your chocolates. Your bff. These are your companions. You are not alone 💗


So yes, I always found it more amusing than relatable, all of the crying singles on Valentine’s day. Maybe it’s heartless of me not to sympathize but I’ve never had a S.O. EVER let alone on Valentine’s day and you don’t hear me whining about it. I mean, yeah I wish there was someone to give me more chocolate of course 😂

But seriously, I have all the love I need in my life. My family, grandparents, church family, friends, and last but not least, the love of my Creator, the Almighty God.

And that is all that really matters in the end.



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